I just read a post on another blog where the blogger suspected her fella is chatting to some other woman online. It reminded me of a conversation I had with an African friend of mine the other evening.

This African friend of mine, lets call him John, is married to a sweet local girl here, and has basically settled down. He does keep suggesting to me that he is brilliant in bed, and he would love to show me, but I am not biting
Anyway, being African, he knows lots of other African guys here as well. They tend to find each other. African guys have a reputation among the local women as being good, and there is never a shortage of women wanting to sleep with them. Now a lot of these African guys are also married to local girls, as then they can stay.
Marriages of convenience and not of love. John was telling me how a lot of these women don't trust their men. They ring them as soon as they are out of work, wanting to know where they are, and when they will be home. They track their every move.
These are African men - proud men, not used to having to answer to a woman all the time. By their actions these women are pushing the men into doing what they are most afraid they might. They tell their wives they are round at Johns, and then they disappear off to the clubs and bars where all these women are waiting for a black guy.
John on the other hand, does not have this problem. His wife does not question where he is, she just accepts. I am not sure if this is out of total trust, or because she does not care, but as they have a small child, I think she does care really. She is one of the most giving people I know. And because John has free reign, he is not cheating on her. Lack of opportunity cannot be the reason, as he too could go to the same bars as his friends. He did it before he married, but now he is behaving, other than badgering me. And with me he is safe, cos I am as I said, not interested.

So maybe that expression about " if you love someone and let them free, they will return" is true. Jealousy is a powerful emotion, and can destroy what the person is trying to maintain.