R's wife is now opening her eyes, although not really focusing properly yet. She has not spoken, and is still connected to lots of tubes to feed her etc.
Ryan (RGray1981) commented to one of my posts, that maybe, when she is fully well again, this incident will bring her and R close together again.

That is something I had already considered, and I am waiting to see if it happens. I think initially it might. assuming she suffers no lasting brain damage, then I think there will be an initial honeymoon period for them both,
But will it last?

If there were problems before, is a brush with death enough to banish them, to make people realise the insignificance of the problems?
My friends will remember that Res also had a brush with death in the summer. He was very ill, and was convinced he would die.
He didn't die, and after he left hospital he wrote to me about his new love of life etc.
Last week, he wrote to me again. He is still happy, but the shine is going. Things are now back to how they were before he became so ill. His wife still refuses all intimacy, and he is wondering again about having an affair.

So their honeymoon period, if that is what it was, did not last long.

R and I are still planning our lovenest, and he will view an apartment this week.
Maybe we should wait, until the honeymoon period comes. I guess R could feel totally torn between his wife and me, and a lovenest is extra pressure.
hmm, need to talk to him I think.