Just tried the one about how daring I am, it is so close that I think it is really cool

You Are Bold And Brave

But daring? Not usually? You tend to like to make calculated risks. So while you may not be base jumping any time soon... You are up for whatever's new and (a little) exciting!

Well I have come out from under my rock to discover a varied response to my guilty post, but not as bad as I was expecting. The responses vary between the haves and the haves not - I think, and by that I mean experience of infidelity.
I think KandAmoist sums it all up really in his second comment, so thank you very much for that. I also have tried to improve my sex life at home. I have tried talks, books, weekends away. Nothing has worked. my husband is happy with a lower amount of sex than I am, and he is also not interested particularly in making it more varied and interesting when we do make love. Admittedly the rate has increased slightly recently, to maybe 12 times a year instead of the previous 6-8. The rate may have increased, but the quality hasn't.
However it is not just sex that we look for in an affair. If a couple have a healthy balanced level of intimacy in a relationship, then this also translates to affection, kisses, tokens of appreciation, encouraging words, compassion, etc. It is not just about sex. But if that intimacy is not there, then the other things tend to be missing as well. As KandAmoist so rightly says, we all have different levels of need for such things, so when these things are out of sync, should one person suffer when the other is quite happy and sees no need for change?
I stand guilty as charged, but I now no longer feel guilty, and I also do not see myself as a slut or a bad person for having my needs fulfilled.
Of all the guys who have contacted me over the platform I have registered at, I would say that the majority are in the same boat. Basically decent family men, who don't want to rock their little boat, but do need more than they are getting at home. They are basically happy, see their wives as good and wonderful women, who they don't want to hurt, but for whatever reason their wives no longer want to make love as often as they used to, or the men feel the need to.
And honesty, well okay, we may deceive our partners, although I am working on that, but I am always 100% honest with my lover, and I find they are generally keen to be totally honest with me. We have to be honest to our feelings and as much as possible to each other.