A lady goes to her priest one day and tells him, "Father, I have a problem.

I have two female parrots, but they only know how to say one thing.

"What do they say?" the priest inquired.

They say, "Hi, we're hookers! Do you want to have some fun?"

"That's obscene!" the priest exclaimed; then he thought for a moment
"You know," he said, "I may have a solution to your problem. I have two male talking parrots, which I have taught to pray and read the Bible. "Bring your two parrots over to my house, and we'll put them in the cage with Frank and Jacob. My parrots can teach your parrots to pray and worship, and yourparrots are sure to stop saying that phrase in no time.

"Thank you," the woman responded, "this may very well be the solution."

The next day, she brought her female parrots to the Priest's' house. As he ushered her in, she saw that his two male parrots were inside their cage,holding rosary beads and praying. Impressed, she walked over and placed her parrots in with them.

After a few minutes, the female parrots cried out in unison: "Hi, we're
hookers! Do you want to have some fun?".........

There was stunned silence.........

Shocked, one male parrot looked over at the other male parrot and
exclaimed,

"Put the beads away, Frank, our prayers have been answered!"
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Today, I found out some interesting facts about R, that so reminded me of Mark. But I promised Mark never to mention him to R again. Which is fair enough, don't want the guy to think I am making comparisons.
But one is bound to notice these things, so here they are:
1.Mark has about 120 shirts, R had 100. They are both shirt addicts.
2.Mark has the hairiest body this side of the woods, (back to my theory of hairy men and testestorone). R has incredibly hairy legs and arms.
3. Both drive stylish cars
4. Both are dapper dressers
5. Both are pretty well off, and like/d spending it on me, and won't let me argue about it
6. Both great at giving and pleasing, before taking
7. Both great at oral sex
8. Both dislike vehemently BMW's
Not sure where this is leading, but I am enjoying the ride

My legs ache, and my friends can possibly guess why. I have just come home from a night of passion with R, so am now exhausted , and my inner thighs ache like crazy. Tomorrow I have a gym appointment at 8am, to set me up on the weight machines, so that could be a bit of a strain.
Obviously I do need to work on those inner thigh muscles though.

R is totally in to all things English, drives a Jaguar, drings tea instead of coffee, and knows London much better than I. I think he visits the UK far more regularly than I too. So for him, an English lover is just perfect. And to show that he is committed, and not about to disappear like a couple of my recent ones, he has booked me an all expenses trip, with him, to Manchester, which is his favourite UK city.
So watch out guys, we land in 6 weeks
I am so looking forward to it, and it gives me 6 weeks to tone those thighs.

Hi all, did you miss me?
Well I am back from my works trip, which was fantastic. Lots of food, and wine, and amazing experiences. We had a fantastic, no expense spared, 2 days, but the weather was pretty poor. The country has been hit with storms which have caused a lot of damage, but we mananged to avoid the worst of it. I even got a bit of a tan!!
As main organiser I was lauded by the rest - and of course my trusty team were as well, so now I have lots of plus points with the boss.

Got back at 8.45 last night to find no one had cleaned, so that did take the shine of things a bit. Can't come home from 4 star hotels to a messed up bathroom. So I cleaned, hit the sack late, and then got up this morning to go to an Open University info event 2 hours away. I am thinking of starting an MSC in Finance and Management - am I mad??
It requires 3 years of my life, and 12 hours a week study time, so maybe I am. No decisions made yet, might take it one bite at a time

In a few hours we are leaving for a 2 day jolly in the south of the country. Well I hope it will be jolly, I am one of the main organisers, and it is a jam packed 2 days of daring stunts and fun. Unfortunately the storm clouds are already gathering, and the weather forecast does not look promising.
Anyway, it means that I am out of here for a while, with no access to blogland. I will try and catch up with you all after the weekend.
Be good

I have just come across a potential new blog friend - sexymf. His blog is similar to mine in theme, but there is one difference. He claims somewhere that having had an affair he decided they were too distructive, and now pays for sex instead.
This raises several interesting (well to me anyway) points. What is more destructive about an affair over paying for sex? I can imagine that yes, an affair has greater destructive potential. One becomes more involved with that other person, time, energy and money is spent contacting them and keeping in touch, in seeing them, spending time together. These are all resources that we are taking from our spouses, as well as the love we feel for that other person distracting us, and taking from our love for our spouse.
Of course to that point, I fall back on my belief that the heart expands to allow more love in and to allow more love to be given.
The second point raised is of course that for men, they can pay for it much easier than we women can. They do have that extra choice. Paying for sex allows a man to keep it as business, as fulfilling a need, with no strings attached.
Women do of course use escort agencies, and I imagine the guys who work there are very skilled, but for me it is never something that crossed my mind to do, it would not be for me, and I suspect it is not what a lot of women really want, that is why there are not so many male prostitutes that aren't catering to other men.
I guess my final point is, would a wronged spouse feel less wronged if the other man / woman was being paid for their services? if there was no love involved? Maybe they would, maybe not, and maybe it depends on the sex of the spouse.
But I wish sexymf a lot of luck and I hope happiness in what he is doing. You are not alone.

This lunchtime I not only spoke to Rolf, but had chocolate too, and now Rolf has just mailed me the most wonderful mail, so I am much much happier. The carrot parrot joke helped too
Rolf's mail was to tell me his heartfelt feelings since meeting me on Friday, and it touched my soul, I felt my heart and body lift as I read his words.
So now I have that wonderful fuzzy feeling back again, and must get on with some work, so that I can meet him this Friday with a clear conscience - well , clear regarding work anyway.

 maybe it is the weather - you know grey clouds, rain, that sort of stuff dampening my mood, maybe it is because my husband was particularly annoying this morning, or maybe it is lack of chocolate, but I was / am feeling a bit down.
I have all sorts of things to feel happy about, in particular my date with Rolf this coming Friday, and the hotel room he has booked, and what fun we are going to have. That is indeed wonderful, but I think it has bought back memories of my time with Andy.
Whilst I was away on my fated business trip, Andy mailed. it was very short, and basically just to inform me he had had a HIV test and was clear   Well he caught me at a bad moment, I was just back from dinner, had had a couple of glasses of wine, and was feeling light headed and dangerous. I fired off a short reply that was in retrospect not so nice.
Well, he had upset me

So this morning I was thinking about that reply, and him, and how it had all ended etc, and it made me sad.
So I mailed him to apologise, and tell him about polyamory and my new relationship. My mascara did get rather smudged as I wrote it, I can be very sentimental at times
he has mailed back, again just short, but it was a nice mail, so I guess I should be happy.

In the book on Polyamory I read recently, that I still mean to review here, it suggested that we should have a ceremony or a ritual to end relationships in a good way. To honour all that was good about them, and allow any negative emotions to go. I like that idea, and think that is what I missed with my ending with Andy.

My husband and I went to see the Anthony Hopkins movie on the weekend - my idea of course. I like his movies. Fracture is about a guy - a very clever guy, who shoots his wife because she is having an affair, and ensures that the policeman she is having the affair with is the one who discovers the crime. Double revenge, with lots of twists

A good movie, one I can recommend.
On the way home afterwards, i did think about asking my husband what he would do if he found out I was having an affair. But I thought better of it. I decided he might say " ignore it, like I am now" or something like that.
But maybe he isn't ignoring anything, because he sees no signs.

  I have just been on line with Mark, and we were chatting, which was delicious, but we won't go into that here, but one thing he did say, in a more serious moment, was how much I have moved on.
And he is right.
I guess Rolf (and Peter) may be part of the reason that I am so happy and mellow at the moment, but also I think it is cos of my little ol blog.
I started the blog at Marks suggestion. i don't know why he suggested it, other than he wanted to keep tabs on my love life   but through my blog I have worked through my feelings about the split from him, and the splits from my other lovers, and I have explored the whole issues surrounding adultery, polyamory and more.
I have made blog friends, who always support me, and reading theirs and others blogs has also be a big help. I am now so less naive about other lifestyle choices, and so much more open to new possibilities.
So , yep I have moved on. I still love Mark and always will, but I can love others, and see bright new possibilities ahead.
So maybe I will keep my blog going just for the all it has bought me.
and if Flickster comments anything cynical I will be most pissed off - so you have been warned.

I have been at blogthings again

Your Five Variable Love Profile

Propensity for Monogamy: Your propensity for monogamy is low. You see love as a gift that you should give to many. It's hard for you to imagine being with one person at at time... Let alone one person for the rest of your life! Experience Level: Your experience level is high. You've loved, lost, and loved again. You have had a wide range of love experiences. And when the real thing comes along, you know it! Dominance: Your dominance is low. This doesn't mean you're a doormat, just balanced. You know a relationship is not about getting your way. And you love to give your sweetie a lot of freedom. Cynicism: Your cynicism is low. You are an eternal optimist when it comes to love and romance. No matter how many times you've been hurt - you're never bitter. You believe in one true love, your perfect soulmate. And if you haven't found true love yet, you know you will soon. Independence: Your independence is medium. In relationships, you need both "me time" and "we time." You usually find it easy to be part of a couple. But occasionally you start to feel a little smothered.

and it is right in my heart. My date yesterday with Rolf was everything I hoped. He is such a nice guy, as I had already surmised. The sun was shining, everything was great. We bumped into no one I knew, and we spent about 6 and a half hours together, which unfortunately flew by.
And now I can think about him all weekend, and get that lovely warm feeling, cos we will meet again next Friday, when I have to visit a town near him for meetings.
Room in my heart for Rolf does not mean less room for anyone else, the heart expands. I am sure of that.

I see Amethyst Photography has deleted his blog. It seems a shame that people come on line for a while, make a blog, makes buddies, and then disappear without letting us know.
I always liked Waynes comments, but ce la vie! I have been wondering about deleting mine actually. I might, I might not, but I will let people know - just in case anyone cares

On a brighter note, I will be meeting Rolf for the first time in an hour and a half. He is coming down by train to spend the afternoon with me. Lunch is booked in a lovely restaurant overlooking the beautiful city where I work, and then we will walk hand in hand ( I hope) along the river, and see what chemistry there is between us. The anticipation is not helping me get any work done, but you know, it is Friday after all, and I have had a very busy week

From the BBC news website:
A woman and three men were shot dead in a public execution in a Pakistani village after tribal elders found them guilty of adultery, officials said.
The death sentences were ordered by a jirga (council) of elders in the Khyber agency area on the Afghan border.

Sex outside marriage is a crime in Pakistan and tribal village councils often punish those involved with death.

Last year, Pakistan's parliament approved a new bill amending Islamic laws on rape and adultery.

The new law dropped the death penalty for people having sex outside marriage.

"We found a man and a woman in a compromising position along with another man who was drunk and had already committed adultery, and the owner of the house," Haji Jan Gul, a village resident, told the news agency Reuters.

"All four confessed to adultery. We punished them according to our customs and traditions," he said.

Reports said the executions were watched by some 600 people.

Just tried the one about how daring I am, it is so close that I think it is really cool

You Are Bold And Brave

But daring? Not usually? You tend to like to make calculated risks. So while you may not be base jumping any time soon... You are up for whatever's new and (a little) exciting!

Well I have come out from under my rock to discover a varied response to my guilty post, but not as bad as I was expecting. The responses vary between the haves and the haves not - I think, and by that I mean experience of infidelity.
I think KandAmoist sums it all up really in his second comment, so thank you very much for that. I also have tried to improve my sex life at home. I have tried talks, books, weekends away. Nothing has worked. my husband is happy with a lower amount of sex than I am, and he is also not interested particularly in making it more varied and interesting when we do make love. Admittedly the rate has increased slightly recently, to maybe 12 times a year instead of the previous 6-8. The rate may have increased, but the quality hasn't.
However it is not just sex that we look for in an affair. If a couple have a healthy balanced level of intimacy in a relationship, then this also translates to affection, kisses, tokens of appreciation, encouraging words, compassion, etc. It is not just about sex. But if that intimacy is not there, then the other things tend to be missing as well. As KandAmoist so rightly says, we all have different levels of need for such things, so when these things are out of sync, should one person suffer when the other is quite happy and sees no need for change?
I stand guilty as charged, but I now no longer feel guilty, and I also do not see myself as a slut or a bad person for having my needs fulfilled.
Of all the guys who have contacted me over the platform I have registered at, I would say that the majority are in the same boat. Basically decent family men, who don't want to rock their little boat, but do need more than they are getting at home. They are basically happy, see their wives as good and wonderful women, who they don't want to hurt, but for whatever reason their wives no longer want to make love as often as they used to, or the men feel the need to.
And honesty, well okay, we may deceive our partners, although I am working on that, but I am always 100% honest with my lover, and I find they are generally keen to be totally honest with me. We have to be honest to our feelings and as much as possible to each other.

hmm, I was surfing some blogs this evening, and happened upon one that AP had commented on, one of his buddies. This is written by a lady about my age, whose husband has moved in with a girl half his age, and now they are going through a divorce etc, and have 2 little kids.
Reading her blog, I realised that she was pretty angry, and probably rightly so. And then I thought about the fact that in the case where I am seeing married men, I am of course the other woman.
Now, her ex, in my defence, does seem to be a total idiot. He can't hold down a job, and has had 17 affairs in the time they have been married which is only 7 years! So, i am not surprised she doesn't want him back, now he is trying to crawl back.
But I ask myself what AP thinks of me, in light of his comment. I guess blogging our secrets does set us up to be shot down, and so far I have been really lucky.
Also in my defence, any affair I enter into is totally discreet - leastwise it is meant to be, and I won't on principle have affairs with anyone with kids younger than mine. We are not trying to hurt anyone, just put into our lives something that is missing.
But I do feel a bit guilty now, so may need to go and crawl under a rock for a while.

Although I have been trying to remove myself from the contact site I was registered at, I keep getting mails from guys. Most I have ignored, but I did answer 2!!!! and both of them have turned out to be gems.
Rolf lives about 2 hours away, and he has the sexiest voice when he speaks english to me, says the most wonderful things, and is totally kind and generous, and I am so excited at the thought of meeting him next Friday. I just know we are going to hit it off.
And today I met Peter, who I had had my doubts about, but is actually totally "geil". We met for lunch, and were really well behaved, but got on really well. And now, all afternoon we have been texting each other, and the tempo has definately increased, so now we are both totally aroused and have nowhere to go And I didn't get as much done as I probably should have done.
He goes on holiday tomorrow for 2 weeks, and we meet when he returns. Before the texts I was planning on something tame and safe, now after these text messages, I think he will definately expect more!!
Oh my, and I was trying to behave. The road to hell is paved with good intentions as they say.